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Ghastly View Profile |
Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
since the 3rd day of having her the problems started i had to give her a bath as she got caked in mud amd had rolled in something stinkey in the back yard and puppy wet wipes were just not budging the smell nor mud so in the bath she went, well the first bath was how you can expect it to go alot of trying to escape, howling etc i gave her treats when she was quite and praise so we done well after the first 5mins Since the bath day i have just felt as if i have resented Milla me and my partner both treat her the exact same nothing is different between the way we give her affection but Milla will now cower whenever i enter a room that she is in, she will not come ouf of her cage when i call her evan if i try to lire her with a treat, she has lightly pee’d herself (dribbled) when i clap her (not all the time though), she will cower when i try to play with her with her toys, she rarely comes to me to have a nap on the floor with me same as when i sit on the floor (she doesnt get on the furniture nor upstairs so she isnt allowed on beds either) amd the list goes on I know it sounds harsh but i totally feel like i hate her she follows my partner round despite she is my dog which doesnt bother me but when she acts how she does towards me when we both treat her the same it bugs me like hell, since i have gotten her i am CONSTANTLY unhappy, sad, angry and just plain old miserable amd im aware she will pick up on that but when she acts how she does towards me it just gets me so much boiled up its unreal and due to this and Milla i lash out to my family and workmates unintentionally due to how i feel and i feel so bad about it me amd my partner pretty much argue all the time now when we never used to and yet again its because i lash out and snap due to how i am feeling which i feel as if it puts a strain on the relationship but Al says he understands but i just feel like a monster I dont want to get rid of Milla but the only way i can describe how i feel is how some woman when they have a baby they get post natel depression and feel as if they hate there baby as there that depressed that is the only way i can describe it and its so silly but i am totally loosing my mind If people didnt get the breeds i liked and used them for bad things then sold them on i would have gotten a adult dog but i thought i would get a pup as i would know how it was raised, what its temprament is and if it was aggressive or slightly aggressive to certain things I am just so lost in what to do and have never felt like this before when i have had a pup or adult dog and no one else i know has ever felt like this i just need someone to understand were i am coming from and to give me help, guidence or advice i am sorry for dumping my woes on you all |
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| 09/06/09 06:55pm |
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FutureVet123 View Profile |
Message To: Ghastly In reference to Message Id: 2068529
Several months ago, in May, we filed an adoption application for 2 chihuahua mixes at the local animal shelter. We were all set up to do a home trial when everything just kind of broke down. I was suddenly constantly furious with them, always losing my temper and my patience. When they peed in the house, I had a fit. I always found something wrong with them or their behavior; they were too nervous, too shy, too rowdy, whatever. I had thought these dogs were amazing when I met them, but now everything just felt wrong. I realized then that I just wasn’t ready for another dog after Peaches, and wouldn’t be for a while. Even though it’s been 17 months since Peaches passed, I still feel like I just rushed out to find another dog, someone to greet me at the door and that I could tell my troubles to. I felt bad about trying to "replace" Peaches, who had been my #1 girl for 13 years. I purposefully tried to find something wrong with those poor dogs so I wouldn’t feel as though I was loving them more than Peaches. In the end, they were both adopted separately to wonderful families whom they love and are very happy with. Last week I met an older yellow Lab at the same shelter, and he reminds me so much of Peaches. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to welcome another dog into my heart the same way again, but we’ll have to wait and see. My best advice would be to just be patient. Try to see the world from Milla’s eyes; she’s a baby, and she’s scared. She’s away from her mama and sisters and brothers, and everywhere she goes she feels like she’s being watched, being judged, which is a perfectly normal reaction. Maybe you are the same as I was; trying to find things wrong with her because you’re afraid to love her the same as Nelly and Kimba. Give it some more time, and just try and create a comfortable, secure place in your home. Your first priority right now isn’t establishing dominance or leadership, or forcing training. Your first priority is to be her friend. Good luck and keep me posted! My thoughts and prayers are with you! -Peaches and Jeni |
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| 09/06/09 07:40pm |
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Senshokukiba View Profile |
Message To: Ghastly In reference to Message Id: 2068529 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
Don’t focus too much on letting her know who’s boss. Based off of your description, she seems very submissive. She needs lots of encouragement. One of the best ways to build up a puppy is to take it on walks. Most puppies love going on walks. It’s a great way to encourage her to be enthusiastic and interested in things. If she likes going on walks, and you’re the one who takes her out, she’ll definitely like you. Also, try training her to do some simple tricks. Dogs love to learn and please. Plus, it’s a great way to bond with her. ( Remember, a dog is never to young to learn.) If you ever need someone to talk to, message me at audrey.. C: |
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| 09/06/09 09:27pm |
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Bran421 View Profile |
Message To: Senshokukiba In reference to Message Id: 2068575 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
I found Prince to be just totally annoying, because I was not used to that personality of a dog. What I’ve learned is that Prince has some separation anxiety. And since he was a rescue, I dont know his past. He could have had no attention given at all, the rescue I adopted him from already determined he was abused. Prince basically lives for attention. I really dont think there is anyway to break him of this, but what I have done is giving him super long walks, at least a few miles.. This totally calms him down to where If I give Slash attention, hes too tired to do anything about it. With Milla, I’d just try and bond with her as much as possible. Shes scared of water pretty much, so praise her as much as you can when shes around it.. Have your partner praise her too. Take her to some puppy classes, so she can play with other dogs.. Or if your friends have other dog friendly pooches let them play with Milla too. Dogs are supposed to see one as comforting them as being weak minded, but shes super submissive, so I’d give her lots of extra attention to get her warmed up to everything. Once shes settled in, then I’d start doing all the major training, and it wont be long before she is. Keep us updated on her, she wont stay a nervous wreck forever! |
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| 09/06/09 10:06pm |
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Ghastly View Profile |
Message To: Bran421 In reference to Message Id: 2068588 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
i have tried to give Milla praise and play with her but everytime she comes near me or i go by her she pee herself she is VERY feared of me!! She doesnt like to go on walks evan with my partner I am the one that feeds Milla, walks, praise her more etc but yet she is so fear of me and it is totally driving me insane!! She isnt that much bothered by water she walks in the rain and had no problen with the others showers she has needed I have looked at everything from her view and nothing i do works i will be 100% honest in saying i cannot cope with Milla but i wont give her up i will also be honest in saying that at the moment i really resent her as my partner and i relationship is thinning as the hour goes by due to the way i am feeling currently I just wish i had gotten a adult dog or that she was the same nature as Nelly as a pup bold and not fearful! |
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| 09/07/09 05:59am |
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Bran421 View Profile |
Message To: Ghastly In reference to Message Id: 2068692 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
I had a very nervous pup, she was a boxer lab mix, and about 12 weeks old when I got her. She was terrified of everything, wouldnt go for walks, and was scared of other people besides me. It took her awhile but she warmed up, it was funny all day she would be a scared little puppy, but by night she would be this crazy, hyper dog who loved everything. It just took her awhile to warm up to everything, and then she caught parvo and sadly passed away :’( Parvo is the WORST thing I had ever had to deal with... It sucks Milla is only acting this way toward you. She’s okay with baths now? I’d have your partner give her baths for awhile, or both of you together. The only way I can think of is just helping her build up her trust, try and teach her a couple new tricks, or give her her favorite treat. |
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| 09/07/09 12:16pm |
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Ghastly View Profile |
Message To: Bran421 In reference to Message Id: 2068812 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
Well i spoke to my vet while i was in getting Milla her final innoculationhe said to just fuss all over her pick her up give her huggles and smacko treats and he said to let my partner do all of the punishing so fingers crossed for me if all fails then Bran im gonna send Milla to you and ill steal Slash from you ;p |
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| 09/07/09 01:00pm |
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Futurevettech725 View Profile |
Message To: Bran421 In reference to Message Id: 2068812 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
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| 09/07/09 01:16pm |
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Futurevettech725 View Profile |
Message To: Futurevettech725 In reference to Message Id: 2068840 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
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| 09/07/09 01:26pm |
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Ghastly View Profile |
Message To: Futurevettech725 In reference to Message Id: 2068842 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
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| 09/07/09 02:41pm |
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Senshokukiba View Profile |
Message To: Ghastly In reference to Message Id: 2068874 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
When I re- homed my Labrador Retriever mix, Delilah, it wasn’t just because I was moving. It didn’t seem like Delilah and I fit together. Delilah and I had personalities that were too different. I’m a little over six feet tall. I’m extremely assertive and like to be in control. Delilah was extremely submissive. Since she was pretty small, I towered over her. Even when I got down on my knees, I seemed like a giant to her. I loved Delilah, yet I truly believed she’d be happier with someone else. So, I ended up giving her to my teacher. I visited Delilah and my teacher several months ago. They’re a perfect match. My teacher is the complete opposite of me. Delilah seems much comfortable being around my teacher. My point is, some times re- homing a dog benefits both the owner and the dog. If it comes to having to re- home Milla, I give you my full support. |
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| 09/07/09 03:35pm |
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Ghastly View Profile |
Message To: Senshokukiba In reference to Message Id: 2068893 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
I know what you mean with height i myself am 6’ 1.5" tall and my partner is 6’ 6" so we both tower her Today seemed not that bad i spoke with my vet about her he gave some advice too, I remember when you had to rehome Delilah but as you say not every dog fits its owner i also like to be in control with dogs i do not like them running riot, misbehaving etc and obviously i am aware she is just a puppy and will do things i do not like but as i stated to my vet i have only ever had 1 puppy and that was Nelly the Rott and she was bold, courageous and understood what i expected from her were as Milla is submissive beyond belief and pretty much needs to grow a set of balls if she is living with me she picked me from the litter i did not pick her so she should have picked that up from me or had second thoughts! I want to keep her but as stated not every glove fits every hand but i am ashamed to mention it to Al and say i would prefere a adult dog as he will just flip despite she is mine and say i get rid of all the pets he gets attached too were as i only got rid of my rat Rain as she bit me which never bothered me but since her first bite i stated if she went for my chinchilla or giant rabbit she is out amd well she attempted to bite Kyo’s (chinchilla) toes off amd left a big tear in my rabbit Harlows ear which needed stitches but due to me rehoming my rat and for valid reasons i know if i so much as mentioned finding Milla a new home while she is still young it would get thrown back in my face completly and then have if you cant keep animals then why get them (hense i have only had to rehome my rat as stated) amd if you do get a adult/senior dog ill proberly get rid of that too So thats also why i havent mentioned it!... |
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| 09/07/09 05:14pm |
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Senshokukiba View Profile |
Message To: Ghastly In reference to Message Id: 2068919 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
If you plan to keep her, you’ll need to be patient with her. You should take a look at Dogbreedinfo.com. It’s got some great information on building your dog’s confidence. Good luck! |
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| 09/07/09 06:37pm |
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Ghastly View Profile |
Message To: Senshokukiba In reference to Message Id: 2068958 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
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| 09/07/09 06:54pm |
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Futurevettech725 View Profile |
Message To: Ghastly In reference to Message Id: 2068965 Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?
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| 09/07/09 07:51pm |
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Has anyone ever felt like this after getting a dog?