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Joe smith View Profile |
 I Brought home a d in english and my parents took away my frog. i brought i up to a b within 2 days and i still cant get my frog back. |
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| 04/22/08 09:03pm |
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Reptilefreak23 View Profile |
Message To: Joe smith In reference to Message Id: 1712895 Meanist parents in the world!
and are they even taking care of it? IM SOOO sorry |
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| 04/22/08 09:16pm |
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Joe smith View Profile |
Message To: Reptilefreak23 In reference to Message Id: 1712915 Meanist parents in the world!
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| 04/22/08 09:26pm |
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Americanchld View Profile |
Message To: Joe smith In reference to Message Id: 1712928 Meanist parents in the world!
Study harder, keep up the b’s and they may give you another one. Parents don’t like to see grades slip, so that could be the reason. If you show them you are responisble with your grades, and keep your room clean, they will eventually feel sorry and maybe buy you another pet. But if you only rebel they will not want to do anything for you. Next time be more responsible for your grades, they know that you are capable of getting a B, but decided to get a D. Raising it in 2 days is not showing them anything, however that was good. They want you to succeed, trust me I know. Heck strive for A’s and they will be thrilled. |
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| 04/23/08 06:09pm |
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Animal lover! View Profile |
Message To: Americanchld In reference to Message Id: 1713833 Meanist parents in the world!
growing up my parnets would always be like that, ug, they always say you ll thank me some day, i still havn t |
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| 05/02/08 09:58am |
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Toad keeper View Profile |
Message To: Animal lover! In reference to Message Id: 1723084
-Chad |
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| 05/02/08 06:45pm |
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KMA View Profile |
Message To: Toad keeper In reference to Message Id: 1723488 Meanist parents in the world!
all my grades are at fair b’s and my parents gets me anything i want |
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| 05/03/08 01:51am |
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Animal lover! View Profile |
Message To: KMA In reference to Message Id: 1723767 Meanist parents in the world!
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| 05/03/08 07:55pm |
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Zeek_the_Ball_Python View Profile |
Message To: Animal lover! In reference to Message Id: 1724312 Meanist parents in the world!
Quote: thats mean, i can just image the anger!
growing up my parnets would always be like that, ug, they always say you ll thank me some day, i still havn t I can relate. Quote: I Brought home a d in english and my parents took away my frog. i brought i up to a b within 2 days and i still cant get my frog back. I feel soo sorry, and worse than taking it away, they sold it to petco o as I call it pet h*ll. Quote: I feel just the same. Especailly my young sister. She thinks she can tease me and get away with it. Well If she does it again, I’m going to do something evil to her that she won’t forget.
-Chad I can relate to that too |
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| 05/04/08 07:23am |
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SusanC View Profile |
Message To: Zeek_the_Ball_Python In reference to Message Id: 1724644
Susan |
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| 05/04/08 02:28pm |
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Keechoo View Profile |
Message To: SusanC In reference to Message Id: 1724901 Meanist parents in the world!
Keep SusanC’s advice in mind. My 2 and 5 year old get things taken away all the time for misbehavior and now a warning is all they need to straighten out. Luckily, this will continue in the future. And from the "I can relate" and "you’ll thank me later" categories. I wish I wasn’t so proud of my being a "B Queen". If I had just studied, which I hardly ever did, I could have gone further in my career or those other careers I always said "I wish" about. |
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| 05/04/08 05:31pm |
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Whitie View Profile |
Message To: SusanC In reference to Message Id: 1724901 Meanist parents in the world!
I second the AMEN!! I’m a little confused here, as a parent and a grandma, I don’t understand taking away the frog (unless they thought it wasn’t being taken care of). I myself, would have taken away the internet first, because I’m sure more time was spent on the computer than with the frog. I guess your lucky your not my kid. Taking away the internet from a kid, is far more eye opening than a pet. With in time kids, get over the pet being gone and they will replace it. If it was that easy to bring up that grade, then you have proven it can be done. |
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| 05/04/08 06:50pm |
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Animal lover! View Profile |
Message To: Whitie In reference to Message Id: 1725159 Meanist parents in the world!
plus it s retarted, as a parent myself( to 5 ) i know how bloody important it is to have pets, it teaches them stuff school can t. |
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| 05/04/08 07:20pm |
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Hoppy View Profile |
Message To: Animal lover! In reference to Message Id: 1725188 Meanist parents in the world!
Though I think your parents should teach a lesson in situations such as this... I have to agree with Whitie on a few things.. I don’t think any pet...I don’t care if its a gold fish should ever be used as a bargaining chip. To me if you buy a pet its your responsibility not something that can be passed back. That responsibility is the parents if the child is under age... I think using something alive for a bargaining tool goes beyond the teachings of taking responsibility.... If the pet had been neglected and this child is under age then that falls upon the parent/s to take over or find an appropriate home. Though this situation shouldn’t arrive if proper thought had been there in the first place on the purchase of a pet.. However life does bring unexpected situations that arise and sometimes animals pay the price.. I think there was many other things that could of substituted punishment without a live animals welfare being one of them.. HOPPY |
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| 05/05/08 12:13pm |
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Dixie31 View Profile |
Message To: Hoppy In reference to Message Id: 1725806 Meanist parents in the world!
Quote: I don’t think any pet...I don’t care if its a gold fish should ever be used as a bargaining chip. To me if you buy a pet its your responsibility not something that can be passed back. That responsibility is the parents if the child is under age...
I agree 100% I am also a special ed teacher (k - 8 at a public charter) and the give and take method discourages more than it motivates in my experience. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned to live by is to recognise that there are many things that account for a child not recieving a good grade; and they are not always because the child "can’t" do it - but that fact does not lesson the reason that they "arent" doing it. Kids are under an extreme amount of pressure (studies show about 3x the amount of an adult); which affects motivation and the mental ability to successfully strive for anything. Giving and taking away is horrible in the classroom AND home setting because it creates an entirely new set of circumstances for the child to feel anger and resentment over. It doesn’t motivate in most cases. In college it took me 2 semesters to pass my stats class with a C+ and to this day I am extremely proud of myself for it! I would just say that your parents were attempting to act in your best interest and to try and not let it affect any future judgements. Do your very best and recognise that in a few short years you will be on your own and can make pet decisions accordingly. |
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| 05/06/08 04:04pm |
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Animal lover! View Profile |
Message To: Dixie31 In reference to Message Id: 1727124 Meanist parents in the world!
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| 05/06/08 06:27pm |
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Keechoo View Profile |
Message To: Dixie31 In reference to Message Id: 1727124 Meanist parents in the world!
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| 05/06/08 06:48pm |
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Dixie31 View Profile |
Message To: Keechoo In reference to Message Id: 1727319 Meanist parents in the world!
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| 05/06/08 07:28pm |
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Whitie View Profile |
Message To: Keechoo In reference to Message Id: 1727319 Meanist parents in the world!
It isn’t like the frog took to much time from his studies. Who knows the frog may have a bigger happier home. If my daughter’s grades were not what they should be, the internet was the first thing to go. 1. That seemed like the only thing that got her attention. 2. She couldn’t stand missing out on the 24/7 conversations. 3. And sitting at a computer from the time she got home from school, to the time she went to bed, wasn’t getting any studying done. 4. I would have to argue with her to get off the computer and go feed/work her horses,spend some time with her dogs etc. 5. When there was limited time on the computer, pets were taken care of, studying was getting done, grades got better and we could actually have a conversation. I too believe if you get a pet, it should be taken care of, and be considered part of the family and should be treated with respect and responsibility. If the pet was being neglected and I was the one that had to take care of it, plus foot the bill for feeding, then I would find a better home and someone that would take care of it. I didn’t work 40 + hrs a week to come home and clean stalls, dog pens etc. ok enough of my soap box. The thing we need to remember, is that we are only hearing one side of the story, and i’m sure there is more to it. |
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| 05/06/08 07:37pm |
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Dixie31 View Profile |
Message To: Whitie In reference to Message Id: 1727385 Meanist parents in the world!
Quote: 5. When there was limited time on the computer, pets were taken care of, studying was getting done, grades got better and we could actually have a conversation.
Then we are agreeing! You found the underlying cause of the behavior and worked out a solution to fix it. Limited computer time instead of all the time is a great median that you could both live with. Had you taken the computer and sold it; leaving her with the knowledge that there was no chance on getting it back would have caused an entirely new set of issues. (We’ve had the living in a virtual life vs. a real one challenge with my oldest as well and had to work out a limited timeframe and conditions that had to be met to earn the time as well) |
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| 05/06/08 09:07pm |
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Meanist parents in the world!